I went to the main page of Yahoo! looking for something. I forget what it was because I was distracted by a link which reads, “Questions to ask on a first date.”
The advice might be coming a little late. I had the first date with the lovely girlfriend almost two months ago, but I can use all the help I can get. So I read the article.
Let me speak to what is written at the bottom of the article first. I want to be clear about the matter of credentials. The article has this to say about the authors: “Barbara and Michael Jonas, named ‘One of America’s Most Romantic Couples’ by People magazine, are the creators of the dating game, ‘To Know YouÖBetter.’”
So the authors’ credentials are that they have created a dating game, they have had something of a title bestowed upon them by People magazine, and have now been published on Yahoo!
My credentials: I have my own blog. I like peanut butter. And I have a pretty good idea about what works and what doesn’t work for me. (I realize that peanut butter has little to nothing to do with dating, but I really like peanut butter.)
Let me also speak to the fact that I know that not all things work for all people and I am fully aware that I am not all people because if I was then, man, I’d be HUGE! But I digress…
Let me now arrive somewhere near the point that I was planning to make in the first place.
The authors propose that on the first date, one person says, “I have a suggestion — there’s a dating game, ‘To Know YouÖBetter,’ and I have some cards from it. Let’s give it a try!”
The very next words are “If you get a positive response…”
Maybe it’s just me, but I seriously was looking for the section that started, “If you get a blank stare back…” or “If she excuses herself to the bathroom but never comes back…” I think it is good to cover all of the bases.
There are ten sample questions, each with a quote from a semi-famous person, which can be printed and cut out in preparation for your looming first date. I guess if you want to be really serious about the whole endeavor you can run out in buy the game “To Know You…Better,” which by the way is mentioned five times on the web page. (And yes, I’m cynical.)
I’m not an expert, but I do enjoy peanut butter. My advice: Ask questions. Ask interesting questions. Ask your own questions. If you have to, look at articles like this but ask the questions in your own words.
Most importantly, listen to the answers.
Read the article for yourself — Questions to ask on a first date
